Unhealthy Relationships

6 Breakup Pitfalls You Should Avoid Like The Plague

| Gayle Katz

6 Breakup Pitfalls You Should Avoid Like The Plague

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Breakups are difficult. Scratch that. Breakups are soul-sucking torture.

Whether your partner hits you with the “we need to talk” line or you pull the plug on your relationship yourself, maneuvering a breakup isn’t easy and can be agonizingly painful.

 

Getting Over Your Breakup Is A Process

And it doesn’t matter if it’s your first breakup, your tenth, or your hundredth, if you liked or loved the person you were with – it’s going to be a bumpy road.

And that’s really the first step to getting over a breakup – admitting it’s not going to be easy. The next step is to ensure you don’t commit any of these breakup no-no’s. While it’s not the end of the world if you do, it’ll certainly make your breakup that much more difficult to get over.

How do I know it’ll take longer to deal and heal from your breakup if you fall into these pitfalls? I’ve done them. Yeah, I’m talking from experience here so do yourself a favor, keep reading, learn from my mistakes, and avoid these breakup pitfalls that will cause you even more heartache.

 

Here Are The 6 Pitfalls That’ll Make Your Breakup Much Harder To Get Over.

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7 Toxic Relationship Habits I Used To Do (And You Probably Do Too)

| Gayle Katz

7 Toxic Relationship Habits I Used To Do (And You Probably Do Too)

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Relationships are difficult. You’ve got to work at them everyday for them to be happy and healthy ones. Sometimes we think we’re acting the right way or maybe we don’t know the right thing to do. If that’s the case, the relationship may fall prey to these 7 toxic relationship habits and is ultimately doomed.

Before I found the love of my life, I dated a lot of people. A lot. In the beginning, my relationships were amazing. It was like I was in a movie. He was handsome. I was beautiful. Every time I saw him, my heart would flutter with anticipation when he smiled at me. When he touched me, I could barely breathe. We were perfect in every way possible. We were the dynamic duo. It felt marvelous. I never wanted the feeling to end.

And then something went wrong and it all seemed to fall apart just as fast as it started. Yeah, maybe I did my best to hold on to that great feeling by keeping the relationship on life-support, but it was over.

Why did these relationships end? Maybe we weren’t compatible. Sure, that could have been it. Or, maybe we were both practicing some extremely toxic habits that ruined the relationship from the beginning.

 

Are you guilty of doing any of these 7 toxic relationship habits?

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4 Ways to Make a Good New Year’s Resolution That Sticks

| Gayle Katz

4 Ways to Make a Good New Year’s Resolution That Sticks

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New Year’s resolutions are nearly impossible to achieve. Why? Because most people are unrealistic when they haphazardly pull their banal resolutions out of thin air.

People set themselves up for failure by not crafting a realistic New Year’s resolution they can keep and make work for them.

Does that sound like you?

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Depressed? 5 Ways To Combat Negative Self-Image on Facebook

| Gayle Katz

Depressed? 5 Ways To Combat Negative Self-Image on Facebook

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Depressed? No way. With all the funny cat videos and laugh out loud crazy memes, how could you be blue?

If you find yourself scrolling through your timeline and see your friends, colleagues, and family constantly post about how they’re so psyched to go on their vacations, dine at fancy restaurants, and have delightful holidays with their family, you might feel a little bad.

While all of those things are great, what if you don’t have your family close? Or if you can’t afford a fancy dinner or can’t take the vacation time?

 

Is Social Media Making You Miserable?

If you’re secretly jealous of others who appear to have it better than you, resent people who were dealt a better lot in life, or depressed because you’re not where you thought you would be at this point in your life, I hear you. Loud and clear.

If you feel that way, it’s totally understandable. Now, more than ever, people are sharing every moment of every day of every experience they have on social media. Some people do it to keep in touch with friends and family, others do it out of habit, and others do it just to prop themselves up.

If you’re feeling sad and depressed because other people seem to be in a state of perpetual happiness on social media, keep reading.

Here are 5 suggestions to combat your social media depression and preserve your self-image.

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Self-Love: Saving Your Sanity From Your Dysfunctional Family This Holiday Season

| Gayle Katz

Self-Love: Saving Your Sanity From Your Dysfunctional Family This Holiday Season

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Ho Ho Ho or No No No?

Not looking forward to getting together with your family this holiday season? I totally get it.

If hearing the same old Christmas songs droning on, racking up debt buying presents your in-laws probably won’t like, and being held hostage at the dinner table doesn’t tickle your fancy, you might need to make a change in how you handle the holidays with your family.

While I wouldn’t advise getting all liquored up on mimosas or starting an all out brawl, there are mindful ways to take care of yourself. It’s called self-love.

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Healthy Relationships – What NOT To Do If You Want One

| Gayle Katz

Healthy Relationships – What NOT To Do If You Want One

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Maybe you met your special someone at work. Or maybe you met on one of the many dating websites like eHarmony or Match.com. Maybe a friend set you up on a blind date.

However you met the person you’re currently in a relationship with, you want to do everything in your power to make it a healthy one, right? I’m going to assume that you’re really into this person and want to make a go of it.

If you’re perplexed about how to rev up your relationship so it has the best chance of succeeding, listen up because I’m going to share my secrets on what has NOT worked.

If you know you do one of the no-no’s below or catch yourself doing them, cut it out.

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Food Coma? 5 Healthy Ways to Recover From Your Thanksgiving Feast

| Gayle Katz

Food Coma? 5 Healthy Ways to Recover From Your Thanksgiving Feast

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Did you overeat during the Thanksgiving holiday weekend? Fall asleep on the couch? Yeah. Me too. It’s called a food coma.

Between the juicy turkey, sugary sweet potatoes with marshmallows, starchy stuffing, and decadent desserts, I definitely ate more than my fair share of calories. I didn’t even mention the regular buttered mashed potatoes, tangy cranberry sauce, creamy green bean casserole, and tasty wine!

If you felt uncomfortable, bloated, and depressed because your relatives almost had to roll you to your car or you found yourself unzipping your pants just to breathe normally after your Thanksgiving feast, listen up. You’re not alone.

As I mentioned before, I am not a doctor, nutritionist, or psychiatrist. However, I am a regular person – just like you – trying to make good choices in my life.

Despite the Thanksgiving food coma, here are 5 pretty simple ways to recover from your gluttonous Thanksgiving rampage.

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Being Grateful: 10 Things to Be Thankful For When You’re Dealing With A Toxic Family Member

| Gayle Katz

Being Grateful: 10 Things to Be Thankful For When You’re Dealing With A Toxic Family Member

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It’s that time of year again. Thanksgiving and the other holidays are here.

With that said, here are the top 10 things to be thankful for when you’re in the midst of dealing with a toxic family member during the holidays.

And they just might apply to you too.

Top 10 Things to Be Thankful For

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Stressed Out? 7 Non-Toxic Ideas To Chill Out And Be A Happier Person (Yeah – It’s Possible!)

| Gayle Katz

Stressed Out? 7 Non-Toxic Ideas To Chill Out And Be A Happier Person (Yeah – It’s Possible!)

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Are you stressed out? I’ll admit life can be stressful at times.

Good Stress vs. Toxic Stress

According to WebMD, a little bit of stress is good. Good stress can help you be your best. It can help you perform better at an interview, focus more on an exam, or run faster in a race.

Stress also causes your heart to pump blood faster to your muscles in case you need to metaphorically flee from danger, which is good instinct.

However, if you experience stress on a regular basis, your heart doesn’t get used to those daily jolts to your system. This is a problem that may put extra pressure on your heart as well as cause a host of other issues, such getting sick more often.

While being stressed out isn’t good for your emotional, physical, and mental health, stress seems to be a normal part of life. It ebbs and flows just like waves in the ocean.

Let Me Be Your Fairy Godmother of Toxic Stress Relief

If you’re stressed out right now or headed in that direction, come with me on a quick journey through the things I do to help kick the stress from my life, at least for a little while.

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Unemployed? 5 Toxic Things Worse Than Getting Laid Off

| Gayle Katz

Unemployed? 5 Toxic Things Worse Than Getting Laid Off (And How You Can Face Them With A Smile!)

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So you just got the axe. Or, maybe you’ve been unemployed or underemployed for a few days, weeks, months, or even years and it sucks.

I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been there multiple times. What I’ve learned is each time is different depending on how you felt about your job, the company, your coworkers, etc.

How You Feel When You Get Laid Off

Even if you somehow felt the sense of impending doom coming, you’re never really prepared for when it actually happens, are you? I know I wasn’t.

So what’s a person supposed to do when you’ve put your heart and soul into a job and you get canned? Well, if we were to remove the fact that you’ve been professionally crushed and let down by your now-former employer, you would just update your resume and start the job hunt.

The problem with this answer is that you’re not a robot. Whether you knew it was coming or you were completely blindsided by the lay off, you’re going to need some time to recuperate and how to explain your unemployment to your next potential employer.

In the midst of all this unemployed chaos happening in your life, other people and feelings will emerge that may make this nightmare even worse for you.

Let’s seriously talk about the negative things that you could face after you get the axe. In some cases, these things could be MUCH worse than being let go from your job, unless you know how to handle them.

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