Author: Gayle Katz

3 Festering Reasons You’re Still Dating A Jerk

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3 Festering Reasons You’re Still Dating A Jerk

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Psst. It might be because of your toxic parents.

I was reading this article on mindbodygreen about why we date the wrong people and it got me thinking about my dating history.  I’m married now, but I won’t lie – it was a bitch to get here.

[If you’re a little unclear on what I mean when I say the word jerk.  Here’s how dictionary.com defines jerk.  (Pay attention to definition #4.)  Also, here’s what urbandictionary.com has to say about the word jerk.]

Okay.  Okay.  Let’s get on with it already.

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5 Beautiful Reasons How Makeup Helps You Cope with Toxic Parents

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5 Beautiful Reasons How Makeup Helps You Cope with Toxic Parents 

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Sometimes the arguments, the name-calling, and the emotional abuse get too much to bear.  If you’re keeping all that hurt inside, don’t.  You wouldn’t believe what kept me going.

My saving grace was makeup.

Makeup was my hobby, my outlet, and my addiction.  It can be torture if you don’t have a diversion to express yourself.  Makeup was my salvation.  In a world of anger, sadness, and depression, makeup was my savior.

It’s crazy, right?  Let me explain…

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3 Surprising Back-to-School Essentials You Can’t Buy in a Store

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3 Surprising Back-to-School Essentials You Can’t Buy in a Store

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If You Grew Up With Toxic Parents, You’re Probably Missing These Basics

You’ve picked up the new laptop, printer, three-ring binder, and anything else you think you needed in order to start a new year.  So why do you still feel bad?

Maybe it’s just butterflies or nerves.  Whatever it is, you just can’t shake it.  It’s an uncomfortable feeling.

It might be that you’re actually missing the MOST important back-to-school supplies.  Contrary to what TV tells us, these school supplies can’t be found in-stores or bought online.

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7 Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Kids

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7 Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Kids

toxic-things-never-to-say-to-your-kidsOr, 7 Things Your Parents Should NEVER Say To You

Everybody has advice on how to raise your kids, especially those people who are already parents.  They’ve been there, done that.

What about parenting advice from someone who hasn’t had kids?  I don’t have kids.  I’m not planning on having kids.  However, I was once a kid.  And I know what words are encouraging to someone still forming his or her self-image. I also know what words are not.

In this week’s post, I want to talk about what you SHOULDN’T say to your kids if you want to them to have a healthy self-image.

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Writing My First Book

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Writing My First Book

3 Reasons I Wrote A Self-Help Book

Are you wondering why at the age of forty-something I decided to publish my first book?

Well, let me explain.  I was bullied since as far back as I can remember.

Dealing with these toxic people and their venomous comments on a daily basis bred my propensity for low self-esteem and bad body image.  And, it cost me years – decades – of unhappiness.  Life was difficult enough without their taunts.  It was a struggle just to get through the day.

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Knowing When to Quit Your Soul-Sucking Job

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Knowing When to Quit Your Soul-Sucking Job

me-expressing-daddy-issuesAs I was researching for my second book, I came across this article by Caroline Beaton on CreativeLive about what not to do when you hate your job.

In a nutshell, her three rules are:

1. Don’t quit.
2. Don’t actively look for jobs.
3. Don’t be a freelancer.

Let’s go point-by-point so I can explain why, in my opinion, her advice might not be right for you.  I know it wasn’t right for me.

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